Some of the most important relationships we will ever have start at work. Some will focus more on work, but the deeper friendships include sharing details about one’s work and personal life.
1. Learn from the turtle.
Jumping into any relationship—work or personal—too quickly might make you seem a bit too eager. We all want to be accepted right away, but focusing on learning your new job and corporate culture first will put you ahead of the curve.
2. The ears have it.Your colleagues will appreciate someone who is genuinely interested. Especially since you might be the new kid, talking too much about yourself might not be appreciated.
3. Keep it positive.When you feel the time is right for sharing personal stories, try to keep them light and positive. No one likes a Debbie downer.
4. Too close for comfort.Trying to get in on the company dirt will make you seem insincere and untrustworthy.
5. ExtracurricularsDo you like to bowl? Visit museums? Run a marathon? Find activities that interest you and invite colleagues to join in!
6. Lighten up.Pick and choose those to be intimate with. Not everyone can take the intensity of a deep, personal relationship. Test the waters.
7. Cheers!
Try not to miss a Happy Hour or networking event, they are great places to cultivate friendships with colleagues. Note to self: some Happy Hours evolve into heavy drinking so best to leave early.
8. Wander.
Friendship candidates can turn up in unexpected places so introduce yourself across departments and extended work partnership.
9. Helping hands.
When you are sincere about offering help you will be known as a go-to person, with valuable advice.
Making friends takes time whether in your private life or at work. So, don’t rush. Deep abiding relationships take time to develop. Sharing interests and revealing intimacies help friendships develop and deepen. Choose your friends carefully, and keep it light.
